When are you going to have one? You should have one right now. I can't wait til you are. Looks good on you. Your turn. Is it time for baby yet?
All nice sentiments, and trust me, all greatly appreciated. Seriously. People want me to have joy and love and a family. It's awesome and I love every single person who says this stuff to me. It makes me feel happy and light and I look forward to my future. But, at the same time....I want to punch you. (Don't worry I won't. I'm far too good at giving a smile instead of a punch :)
I can't even remember a time where I didn't think about becoming a mom. I mean seriously...my biological clock must have been ticking since birth. I was born to be a mother. This I know for sure. Whether I am able to have one on my own...or if I adopt...I'm going to be a mother.
I trust my gut feeling more than anything else. With the move...it never seemed right to move anytime earlier. Now everything is falling into place. It all seems right now. I'm happy and I couldn't be more excited to move to a new environment and challenge myself with the challenges I know I am about to face.
Could you imagine living in the same house all your life and then moving to an entirely new country...WITH A BABY? With no place of your own...and absolutely no furniture...or beds...or a job?
Yikes...that never seemed appealing to me. If it happened would I be happy about it? Sure. Of course. It wouldn't be ideal...but it would still be joyous.
Ever since Farmey and I have been married we have barely been alone. We live in a house that is stuffed to the gills. We all get on each others nerves and we bitch about shit that doesn't get done. We get cranky living there...so much so to the point where we want each other to eff the eff off. Before Alex got a job we barely had enough money for us to live comfortably...much less a baby.
From the get go, Al and I have both been two in one mind about this. We've both wanted to enjoy the time we had while we were young. We've both wanted to wait a bit in our marriage until we had some real stability. A real understanding of each other. We've both wanted a home of our own to bring our child home to. We've both (well mostly me) want the child to have its own nursery decked out in style (if its up to Al its white walls a crib and a curtain though. LOL).
The reason I don't have a baby is simple. My gut is telling me it is not time yet. My heart and my head? Well that's a different story. Certain times I go mental that I don't have one. Alex has restricted me from seeing any more babies. I go into this crazy state and tell him "That's it...pull your effing pants down...we are having a baby now." hahah Romantic right? Just how everyone wants to conceive a baby. The husband running scared and the wife crazily trying to molest him with her hormones. Every time someone else gets pregnant (holy crap...it's happening a lot lately :) I am going to admit...I'm totally jealous of you. Obviously not in a bad way. In the best way possible. When other people have babies I am over the moon...mostly because I get my fix when I get to hold them and love them. When a friend has a new baby it just cements the fact that holding, loving, caring, teaching, and having fun with a child is exactly where I want to be every day of my life. It's just not the time yet. Alex knows it better than me...and he is my rock and the reminder to just be patient a little bit more.
It will be time soon. As soon as I get settled in England...it will happen. But for now...do me a favor and take it easy on my biological clock. It is ticking...and the sweet sentiments everyone so dearly wishes for me only make the ticking turn into a pounding sound. I'm genuinely trying to focus on my move and my marriage and some fun times my husband and I have ahead. We are going to spend some serious alone time. We are probably going to go on some fun little trips together. We are going to have fun looking around at houses and picking out the best one for us. We are going to find that house and make a home for our future child/children. We are going to prep for a baby together and learn how to be just us as a family first. As soon as all that falls into place the baby will come too.
If you are my child/children and you are reading this in the future. I've day dreamed about you all of my life. I want to know what you are going to look like and who you are going to be. I want to kiss you and hold you and cuddle you and you aren't even you yet. My advice to you is to be more like your mom and less like your dad. :op Remember that! haha xo
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Go with peace and love....
Last Thursday I learned that my Pa George was not doing well and that he wouldn't be with us much longer.
He was in the hospital and had a surgery. I guess he was doing bad, then good, then bad. He wasn't expected to live more than 24 hours on Thursday.
I do horribly with death. I went over there to see him. He was pretty out of it. More people started showing up and I had to get back to work. I meant to go by the next day. I didn't. Saturday I didn't go by. Sunday I didn't go by. Monday I didn't go by. Today I was driving down the road to make a delivery and I told myself...it's probably a good time to go by. After my delivery I pulled in.
I pull up and my Uncle Matt was looking somber. Gramma Pat had tears in her eyes. I walked in literally just after it had happened. I just had a gut feeling to go over there, unannounced, just show up. I get these gut feelings here and there and I always know its my mom telling me to do stuff.
I feel grateful that I had a gut feeling to go over there. I was able to have a second alone with him. I was able to wish him peace. Thank him for being my grandpa. I was also able to tell him to say hi to my mom for me. All while he was still warm. I told him I loved him.
I remember having a really good time with my grandparents at the Huntington Beach house while I was little. That is where my memory resides when I think of my grandparents. I also remember going to stay up with them with my sister in Modesto. We had a good time up there together. I remember him cooking outside. He loved to use lots of garlic. I am more than certain that is where I got it from when I add garlic to everything. When I got into the family business, I found, that as an adult, I seemed to butt heads with George a lot. Some how, being little and not knowing much about adult hood tends to make better memories. I'm not going to spout off what we disagreed on...or why I might not have spent more time with him as an adult...
What good does that do? It doesn't matter now. He was my grandpa. Didn't agree on everything but regardless of that I know we both still loved each other.
I will miss him calling the shop saying "Hi there, Lea(er)." He always put an r instead of an a sound.
I don't know how to feel right now. I'm sad for the loss. Mostly sad for the people who spent the most time with him. Especially his daughter Cathy. That was the hardest part was watching her walk in the room.
I struggle with being truly sad by this loss. He is not suffering any longer. He is at peace. He has no pain. He's with my mom. He just got to figure out what life really was all about. Thank you for the lessons I have learned because of you. Thank you for being my grandpa. Bless you Pa George, rest in total peace, you were and are loved.
He was in the hospital and had a surgery. I guess he was doing bad, then good, then bad. He wasn't expected to live more than 24 hours on Thursday.
I do horribly with death. I went over there to see him. He was pretty out of it. More people started showing up and I had to get back to work. I meant to go by the next day. I didn't. Saturday I didn't go by. Sunday I didn't go by. Monday I didn't go by. Today I was driving down the road to make a delivery and I told myself...it's probably a good time to go by. After my delivery I pulled in.
I pull up and my Uncle Matt was looking somber. Gramma Pat had tears in her eyes. I walked in literally just after it had happened. I just had a gut feeling to go over there, unannounced, just show up. I get these gut feelings here and there and I always know its my mom telling me to do stuff.
I feel grateful that I had a gut feeling to go over there. I was able to have a second alone with him. I was able to wish him peace. Thank him for being my grandpa. I was also able to tell him to say hi to my mom for me. All while he was still warm. I told him I loved him.
I remember having a really good time with my grandparents at the Huntington Beach house while I was little. That is where my memory resides when I think of my grandparents. I also remember going to stay up with them with my sister in Modesto. We had a good time up there together. I remember him cooking outside. He loved to use lots of garlic. I am more than certain that is where I got it from when I add garlic to everything. When I got into the family business, I found, that as an adult, I seemed to butt heads with George a lot. Some how, being little and not knowing much about adult hood tends to make better memories. I'm not going to spout off what we disagreed on...or why I might not have spent more time with him as an adult...
What good does that do? It doesn't matter now. He was my grandpa. Didn't agree on everything but regardless of that I know we both still loved each other.
I will miss him calling the shop saying "Hi there, Lea(er)." He always put an r instead of an a sound.
I don't know how to feel right now. I'm sad for the loss. Mostly sad for the people who spent the most time with him. Especially his daughter Cathy. That was the hardest part was watching her walk in the room.
I struggle with being truly sad by this loss. He is not suffering any longer. He is at peace. He has no pain. He's with my mom. He just got to figure out what life really was all about. Thank you for the lessons I have learned because of you. Thank you for being my grandpa. Bless you Pa George, rest in total peace, you were and are loved.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Drum Roll...Please...I finally blogged again.
I didn't blog in February. I thought about it a few times...but alas...it didn't happen.
February isn't typically a good month for me. I am always so entrenched in the fact that it is the month my mom passed away oh so many years ago. It never feels as long as it really is. And some how...I always think she is coming back. I get reminded in that month that I lost her. It some how makes the whole month kind of a blur and I'm not generally too happy.
Star West was a little slow. I have been running things on my own and that stresses me out. Dave is out and about trying to sell and that leaves me to do his jobs and my jobs. I have to juggle a lot of stuff and sometimes...I'm not too good at it. I start thinking of all the things I have to do to get this place ready for my departure. I start freaking out. How do you get 11 years of experience out of your head and onto paper so that somebody might be able to do it? I'll figure it out. So last months emotions + stress= crazy crazy Lea.
But...hey...GUESS WHAT? It's half way through March. And some good things have been happening.
Farmey and I have been able to save up quite a bit of cash (for us at least). We've been with out comfort in money for so long it's refreshing to know that when the opportunity arises and we gotta spend money...we have it...and its comfortable for us to do so.
Yesterday I did my usual troll of the internet to find flight deals. I have been looking since last year. Trying to feel out the costs of our move. I had seen tickets for $1500 for one way. That's per person. That significantly would have demolished our nest egg and left a very big bruise on my saving ego. Wait...its ours not mine. But for the purposes of the blog...you get the jist. (Still having a hard time saying "we" after 4 years and something something months...I blame it on independence. Alex loves to give me a hard time about it.)
Prices weren't looking affordable until yesterday when I so magically happened to find an $817 flight per person. I found that flying to London was our cheapest option. Alex told me to pull the rip cord and get it. I immediately got excited and started chanting "I'm moving to England! I'm moving to England!" Thank you Iceland Air for your affordability. You just made one of my 7 year long dreams come true. I fly August 12th. We go from LAX to Seattle. Seattle to Iceland (so cool never been there....not like I get to see past the airport though). Iceland to London. We will then take the tube to Kings Cross and hop a train to Hull. We are going to be up for more than 24 hours by the time we get to Hull. We are going to be cranky and tired and probably hungry. Our bags will probably get lost some how (because it's American Airlines that handles the first flight so I would NOT be surprised). You'd think I wouldn't be looking forward to this journey so much. But I am...
I look passed the impending crankiness...the tears I will probably have leaving some of the people I love the most...and the bickering that might ensue between me and Farmey...and I realize...that's our first trip starting our own lives together. Our own lives. Alone...well mostly...we will be living with his Dad til we get sorted...but we'd go from a house of 6 to a house of 3. Bliss. We've been waiting for this. Patiently, sometimes...and not so patiently, sometimes...(Alex has the patience of a saint..I have no such thing.).
So now...with a move date in sight...I got quite a bit of things to handle quickly and efficiently. Get Star West out of my brain and onto paper. Eliminate things I am not taking with me and pack up ones I will eventually take with me. I need to do some touch up's and spruce up's to my truck so I can sell it quickly and painlessly. I almost don't know where to start...but I am going to start this weekend in my room.
I also have a lot of things I have to do with friends before I go. I want to soak up each and every person here whenever and however I can. What makes this move and the distance ok is the ability to skype, facebook, email, blog...god bless the invention of all these things that will help me keep in contact with my beloved peeps.
I have some fun things planned ahead:
Taking a train down to visit my wife Roho. Yes I have a wife. haha She's one of my best friends and if I was to marry a woman...she would be it. LOL. I am going down Easter weekend. We are going to eat sprinkles and go to the movies and have Easter breakfast at Sarah's sisters house.
Yosemite: My Earth Day weekend. Another glorious time with my wife (also a fellow geographer I might add). We are going to enjoy our last Earth Day together. I'd like to say there are going to be more of these Earth Day trips in the future. We will see where the road of life takes us on that one. But I'm gonna love it and live it like its my last one.
May, June, July will all be up in the air ready for fun and I can't wait.
Other things I am looking forward to...Ladies Day at the Races in England. I get there just in time for it. I guess we all get on a bus in our fancy get up (I GET TO WEAR A FANCY HAT!!! I've been waiting for this!!!) We go to the races...drink...come back...have a buffet at the pub and then DRINK SOME MORE! This alone will make moving a bit better. I'm looking forward to spending time with the friends I already have there and the new friends I am going to meet there.
The life I imagined is beginning. And I couldn't be more excited. I feel like I'm so excited I could pee my own pants every minute.
More things to follow...stay tuned.
February isn't typically a good month for me. I am always so entrenched in the fact that it is the month my mom passed away oh so many years ago. It never feels as long as it really is. And some how...I always think she is coming back. I get reminded in that month that I lost her. It some how makes the whole month kind of a blur and I'm not generally too happy.
Star West was a little slow. I have been running things on my own and that stresses me out. Dave is out and about trying to sell and that leaves me to do his jobs and my jobs. I have to juggle a lot of stuff and sometimes...I'm not too good at it. I start thinking of all the things I have to do to get this place ready for my departure. I start freaking out. How do you get 11 years of experience out of your head and onto paper so that somebody might be able to do it? I'll figure it out. So last months emotions + stress= crazy crazy Lea.
But...hey...GUESS WHAT? It's half way through March. And some good things have been happening.
Farmey and I have been able to save up quite a bit of cash (for us at least). We've been with out comfort in money for so long it's refreshing to know that when the opportunity arises and we gotta spend money...we have it...and its comfortable for us to do so.
Yesterday I did my usual troll of the internet to find flight deals. I have been looking since last year. Trying to feel out the costs of our move. I had seen tickets for $1500 for one way. That's per person. That significantly would have demolished our nest egg and left a very big bruise on my saving ego. Wait...its ours not mine. But for the purposes of the blog...you get the jist. (Still having a hard time saying "we" after 4 years and something something months...I blame it on independence. Alex loves to give me a hard time about it.)
Prices weren't looking affordable until yesterday when I so magically happened to find an $817 flight per person. I found that flying to London was our cheapest option. Alex told me to pull the rip cord and get it. I immediately got excited and started chanting "I'm moving to England! I'm moving to England!" Thank you Iceland Air for your affordability. You just made one of my 7 year long dreams come true. I fly August 12th. We go from LAX to Seattle. Seattle to Iceland (so cool never been there....not like I get to see past the airport though). Iceland to London. We will then take the tube to Kings Cross and hop a train to Hull. We are going to be up for more than 24 hours by the time we get to Hull. We are going to be cranky and tired and probably hungry. Our bags will probably get lost some how (because it's American Airlines that handles the first flight so I would NOT be surprised). You'd think I wouldn't be looking forward to this journey so much. But I am...
I look passed the impending crankiness...the tears I will probably have leaving some of the people I love the most...and the bickering that might ensue between me and Farmey...and I realize...that's our first trip starting our own lives together. Our own lives. Alone...well mostly...we will be living with his Dad til we get sorted...but we'd go from a house of 6 to a house of 3. Bliss. We've been waiting for this. Patiently, sometimes...and not so patiently, sometimes...(Alex has the patience of a saint..I have no such thing.).
So now...with a move date in sight...I got quite a bit of things to handle quickly and efficiently. Get Star West out of my brain and onto paper. Eliminate things I am not taking with me and pack up ones I will eventually take with me. I need to do some touch up's and spruce up's to my truck so I can sell it quickly and painlessly. I almost don't know where to start...but I am going to start this weekend in my room.
I also have a lot of things I have to do with friends before I go. I want to soak up each and every person here whenever and however I can. What makes this move and the distance ok is the ability to skype, facebook, email, blog...god bless the invention of all these things that will help me keep in contact with my beloved peeps.
I have some fun things planned ahead:
Taking a train down to visit my wife Roho. Yes I have a wife. haha She's one of my best friends and if I was to marry a woman...she would be it. LOL. I am going down Easter weekend. We are going to eat sprinkles and go to the movies and have Easter breakfast at Sarah's sisters house.
Yosemite: My Earth Day weekend. Another glorious time with my wife (also a fellow geographer I might add). We are going to enjoy our last Earth Day together. I'd like to say there are going to be more of these Earth Day trips in the future. We will see where the road of life takes us on that one. But I'm gonna love it and live it like its my last one.
May, June, July will all be up in the air ready for fun and I can't wait.
Other things I am looking forward to...Ladies Day at the Races in England. I get there just in time for it. I guess we all get on a bus in our fancy get up (I GET TO WEAR A FANCY HAT!!! I've been waiting for this!!!) We go to the races...drink...come back...have a buffet at the pub and then DRINK SOME MORE! This alone will make moving a bit better. I'm looking forward to spending time with the friends I already have there and the new friends I am going to meet there.
The life I imagined is beginning. And I couldn't be more excited. I feel like I'm so excited I could pee my own pants every minute.
More things to follow...stay tuned.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Let's discuss this for a few seconds...
I am Lea and I am in my comfort zone and I have been for about 11 years. 29 if you want to be exact.
We moved to my house when I was 3ish. I remember leaving our old house and being excited to see the new house. The only thing I can clearly remember from that day was being in the back of my mom's blue pick up truck. I looked out the window and saw a big tree. I was excited to be there and can remember it clearly.
Much has changed about that house since I've moved in. But it always feels and smells the same walking into it. I feel happy to have some place that was built for me and my family with lots of love and hard work. It's warm. It has a bed. I am blessed.
There have been many times since I was 18 that I thought I wanted to move out. I thought I wanted to have my own place with a room mate...or wanted to get an apartment for just a bit here with Alex. It never seemed right. Home always seemed right and of course economical.
I am now currently trolling real estate in England trying to figure out where my next home is. Anxiety? A bit...yes....how did you guess?
I have been working since I was 11. Not like sweat shop working. But I have been making my own money since I was 11 years old. I started baby sitting. In the 8th grade I was able to make at least $700 bucks towards a trip to Hawaii with the Girl Scout troop I was in.
At 15 I got a job at the swap meet. Every weekend I would get up early and go to work and sell automotive accessories. I got cash every week and it was awesome.
I started working at Target when I was almost 17. I worked there for a year and did pretty much any job a 17 year old could do. They wanted me to be in charge of a department or something or they wanted to give me extra responsibility that I didn't want so I figured it was time to go.
It was at around 18 years old when I started working for Star West and have never stopped. I'm not going to bore you with what I have gone through with this company. I lost my mom 7 years ago and she was running it. That should give you a little clue in how hard still working here is. Now I run it. But...on the flip side...I know it like the back of my hand and I am comfortable with it. I am very good at my job and of course could always do a bit better.
I am now signed up to get notified for jobs that become available in England. When I move I won't have a job. It will be the first time in 18 years that I am not making any money and will be unemployed. Anxiety? A lot....how did you guess?
This is something I struggle with every day. The anxiety of leaving my comfort zone. I'm excited...but more nervous than anything. I know it is coming faster than I realize. I've always been confident in myself but right now I feel very very uncomfortable. I feel like the jobs that come into my inbox that are available...are jobs that I wouldn't be able to do. It's been so long since I have had to interview for a job. I've never had to make a resume. What if I never get a job? What if they think I'm over qualified? Under qualified? What if they think my degree isn't good enough? What if? What if? WHAT IF?????
I know some how it will all work out. I know, some how, that even though I have kind of a plan...its not set in stone. That's been a struggle the last 4 years. I have a plan and it goes completely the wrong way and I get mad at the world about it. I've learned that a direction is better than a plan and I feel I am heading in the right direction. I just need to remind myself constantly to not freak out. I will head in the direction I want and let the adventure of life take me where ever it takes me. I have a husband who loves me a hell of a lot. I have a supportive family unit over there. I have a supportive family unit here. No matter what happens I know I have that. Again...I am blessed.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Friday, January 20, 2012
Chi Chi Chi Chilly Chi-Town!
I suppose this blog could be a day to day and hour to hour account of what I did. I suppose I could tell you all the touristy things I saw. I suppose...if you are reading this...you have already checked out facebook and saw the insane amount of status reports I made. Picture overload I'd say...but hey...that's the beauty of facebook. I stream live 24/7 hahah. I don't need to bore you with all the details because I already did. I'll give you some summaries but I will bore you with the details of the bachelor party though but only because it has a point...LOL.
When I got to baggage claim...Kevin sneaks up behind me and starts talking. I immediately gave him the biggest hug. Then I looked at his face. It's not that he looks "old" its just that he looks older. More grown up. A little bit more peace in his face. He knows what he wants and loves what he has. If you ask me...Kevin looks great!
After we picked up Brian, settled into the hotel, ate some lunch...it was time to start getting ready for the bachelor party. I was ready before Farmey so I walked down the hall because all the boys were in the room pre gaming. I hadn't seen Ivan since my mom's memorial which was almost 7 years ago. He hasn't changed at all. Maybe he's a bit more buff and has a few wrinkles around his eyes...hahaha
He tried to offer me a swig of his Sam Adams champagne beer. I tasted it...gross. Ivan seems to like it. We all headed down to the hotel bar and pre gamed some more. Once that was over we headed out into the cold (take your first breath away cold!!!) to walk a few blocks to the Brazilian BBQ. Note to all the ladies out there: walking in heels in the snow SUCKS. Seriously...the guys were hauling ass and I was just worried about mine falling on to the concrete.
After dinner it was LIMO time. We got into the limo and Ivan wants to go to the bar where Maddie and he had first met. Since I'm not completely a dude of course I let out an "awwwwww!". What a cute thing to do Ivan Brown...except the bar is CLOSED. We go across the street to the other bar...nobody is in there. We are beginning to think that nobody is out anywhere (Kevin was straight up tripping because he was worried it wasn't going to be a good night). We have a couple of rounds there and make our way to a pub.
The pub had a little more people in it (I'm sure those quiet drinkers were thrilled we showed up!). Billy bought Irish Car Bombs and that was the beginning of the end for Ivan. Alex was NOT going to drink one of those so Ivan got two. Next thing we know Ivan starts bumbling around...the bartender was asking me if any of the drinks I ordered were for him because she sure as hell wasn't going to serve him. I promised her I only gave him water. He spews....comes back....we sit around....then...he gets up and I glance over and just before he makes it to the bathroom door he lets out a mini explosion. Good going Brewski!
So there I was with Billy cleaning up chunks of Brazilian BBQ off the floor...and we get word that we are heading out. Yep. Kevin...it was a success. Ivan was done!
So we get back to the hotel and we tuck Ivan into bed. Ivan has this dumbass look on his face as every one is fussing over him. I got shoe patrol. I tried to take his shoe off with out undoing the laces because I figured it would be faster. He of course notices this and his drunk ass tries to tell me to loosen the laces. I just looked at him (probably how I've looked at him every time that kid has annoyed me) and told him to "shut up dude...I GOT IT!". It made me feel like I was in high school for a split second.
Brian stayed behind to tend to the drunk and the rest of us wanted to get more drinks...we obviously had paced ourselves. So we walk out of the hotel and go down the street to a bar. THAT PLACE WAS BUMPING. The last bar we go to and its the fullest...oh...the irony.
9ish AM the next day: *telephone rings* "Hey you up?" "NO!" "You want to go to breakfast with us?" "Are you guys all up and ready now?" "Yes" "NO" "hahah ok."
The boys get back from breakfast and knock on my door. All I remember is feeling like a bread truck hit me. I wasn't hung over. Just insanely tired. I didn't nap at all on Thursday and only got 3 hours of sleep...I did a 4 hour flight to Chicago...and kept on going all the way until past 2 am. I'm not 21 any more...my body hated me. LOL. They gave me an hour to get ready.
We took a cab to Millenium Park to see the bean. Did the photo ops and all the good stuff. Then we walked to the Field Museum. Yes...we walked a thousand miles. Every one was numb in places they didn't know they could be numb in. We walked around The Field Museum for a bit then left to head towards Sears (I guess its Willis now) Tower. Another thousand miles later and we were at Giordanos. It was fun to sit down...wait for a pie...and watch the men be boys some more. I'm convinced that they will never out grow the boy and I love that about them. If it wasn't Ivan sticking cheese up his nose...it was Ivan eating popcorn with a knife and fork. Actually....maybe Ivan never grows up....LOL.
We all had to make our way back to the hotel. I stayed in for the night with my honey. We zoned out. Watched T.V. and found some place to eat. I got mad shit for missing the hockey game. But I didn't care. Bed is where I wanted to be. (Again with the old lady schiz!)
Saturday we had breakfast. Went to the Navy Pier and went up the bajillion floors to the top of the Sears Tower. They have those clear boxes hanging off the side. The boys were all about it. They just walked right in there and took pictures...sat there....didn't seem to phase them that you could see the whole damn Earth below you! I couldn't step on it. It freaked me out way too much. So the first round of pictures I'm freaking out and just putting my hands on the glass. I finally sat on it and scooted out to Alex so we could take a picture together. I had no idea I would be THAT freaked out.
Kevin had to go to the rehersal dinner. We just stayed back and were lazy for a bit. Once he was done we went back to the bar that was bumping Bachelor party night. Had a few drinks then went to sleep.
Sunday! What a gorgeous day. Seriously. The sun came out a bit. There was snow every where. The church was beautiful. The bride is seriously one of the most GORGEOUS brides I've ever seen. Kevin and Ivan looked so handsome. Brian and Alex looked snazzy. I had on pearls and a brand new dress. There wasn't a person in that church that wasn't looking sharp.
After the ceremony I got the nicest hug from Ivans mom. She didn't recognize me at first. That hug felt like the kind of hug my mom would give to me. I've always loved that lady. I missed her.
PARTY TIME. Ok....this wedding is probably the best wedding I have ever been to. The country club was absolutely gorgeous. Wine was flowing. Appetizers a plenty. Every one was so happy. It was seriously an amazing celebration. I cried at Maddie's dad's speech. It was such a sweet moment between the two of them. I thankfully didn't cry at Kevin's speech. I thought I would but I didn't. When Ivan and Maddie danced...you couldn't help but see two people absolutely perfect for each other. He loves her so much and you can see it every time he looks at her. She looks at him the same way. It's magic to see two people like that.
After dinner (which was really good by the way) the dancing went off the hook. Man...every one was cutting a rug. It was awesome. The DJ played a ton of great songs. The whole day was just pure awesome. I loved seeing faces I hadn't seen in a long time.
What I learned from my visit to Chicago:
*I've always been considered a dude to those two boys (now men) up there. It felt good to know that after everything and how long we have all been apart...that it will ALWAYS feel the same. We were able to pick right back up from the last time we were all together and have a great time. Being called a dude was an ultimate compliment for me. I like not being fully a chick.
*I am glad I didn't go to my high schoool reunion. All the people I wanted to see were in Chicago and we partied it up. I'm glad I used the hundred bucks it was supposed to cost me to go to a reunion here...I used it there...and then some. It was awesome and wouldn't have changed it for the world.
*I learned that no matter how much Alex bitches he will ultimately have a good time and understand why I make him do the things that I make him do. I like putting a bit of a travel bug in my husband.
* I learned what truly cold was like. I mean. It was truly cold. I came back here and the new phrase is "It's cold...but it's not Chicago cold."
When I got to baggage claim...Kevin sneaks up behind me and starts talking. I immediately gave him the biggest hug. Then I looked at his face. It's not that he looks "old" its just that he looks older. More grown up. A little bit more peace in his face. He knows what he wants and loves what he has. If you ask me...Kevin looks great!
After we picked up Brian, settled into the hotel, ate some lunch...it was time to start getting ready for the bachelor party. I was ready before Farmey so I walked down the hall because all the boys were in the room pre gaming. I hadn't seen Ivan since my mom's memorial which was almost 7 years ago. He hasn't changed at all. Maybe he's a bit more buff and has a few wrinkles around his eyes...hahaha
He tried to offer me a swig of his Sam Adams champagne beer. I tasted it...gross. Ivan seems to like it. We all headed down to the hotel bar and pre gamed some more. Once that was over we headed out into the cold (take your first breath away cold!!!) to walk a few blocks to the Brazilian BBQ. Note to all the ladies out there: walking in heels in the snow SUCKS. Seriously...the guys were hauling ass and I was just worried about mine falling on to the concrete.
So there I was with Billy cleaning up chunks of Brazilian BBQ off the floor...and we get word that we are heading out. Yep. Kevin...it was a success. Ivan was done!
So we get back to the hotel and we tuck Ivan into bed. Ivan has this dumbass look on his face as every one is fussing over him. I got shoe patrol. I tried to take his shoe off with out undoing the laces because I figured it would be faster. He of course notices this and his drunk ass tries to tell me to loosen the laces. I just looked at him (probably how I've looked at him every time that kid has annoyed me) and told him to "shut up dude...I GOT IT!". It made me feel like I was in high school for a split second.
Brian stayed behind to tend to the drunk and the rest of us wanted to get more drinks...we obviously had paced ourselves. So we walk out of the hotel and go down the street to a bar. THAT PLACE WAS BUMPING. The last bar we go to and its the fullest...oh...the irony.
9ish AM the next day: *telephone rings* "Hey you up?" "NO!" "You want to go to breakfast with us?" "Are you guys all up and ready now?" "Yes" "NO" "hahah ok."
The boys get back from breakfast and knock on my door. All I remember is feeling like a bread truck hit me. I wasn't hung over. Just insanely tired. I didn't nap at all on Thursday and only got 3 hours of sleep...I did a 4 hour flight to Chicago...and kept on going all the way until past 2 am. I'm not 21 any more...my body hated me. LOL. They gave me an hour to get ready.
We took a cab to Millenium Park to see the bean. Did the photo ops and all the good stuff. Then we walked to the Field Museum. Yes...we walked a thousand miles. Every one was numb in places they didn't know they could be numb in. We walked around The Field Museum for a bit then left to head towards Sears (I guess its Willis now) Tower. Another thousand miles later and we were at Giordanos. It was fun to sit down...wait for a pie...and watch the men be boys some more. I'm convinced that they will never out grow the boy and I love that about them. If it wasn't Ivan sticking cheese up his nose...it was Ivan eating popcorn with a knife and fork. Actually....maybe Ivan never grows up....LOL.
Saturday we had breakfast. Went to the Navy Pier and went up the bajillion floors to the top of the Sears Tower. They have those clear boxes hanging off the side. The boys were all about it. They just walked right in there and took pictures...sat there....didn't seem to phase them that you could see the whole damn Earth below you! I couldn't step on it. It freaked me out way too much. So the first round of pictures I'm freaking out and just putting my hands on the glass. I finally sat on it and scooted out to Alex so we could take a picture together. I had no idea I would be THAT freaked out.
Kevin had to go to the rehersal dinner. We just stayed back and were lazy for a bit. Once he was done we went back to the bar that was bumping Bachelor party night. Had a few drinks then went to sleep.
Sunday! What a gorgeous day. Seriously. The sun came out a bit. There was snow every where. The church was beautiful. The bride is seriously one of the most GORGEOUS brides I've ever seen. Kevin and Ivan looked so handsome. Brian and Alex looked snazzy. I had on pearls and a brand new dress. There wasn't a person in that church that wasn't looking sharp.
After the ceremony I got the nicest hug from Ivans mom. She didn't recognize me at first. That hug felt like the kind of hug my mom would give to me. I've always loved that lady. I missed her.
PARTY TIME. Ok....this wedding is probably the best wedding I have ever been to. The country club was absolutely gorgeous. Wine was flowing. Appetizers a plenty. Every one was so happy. It was seriously an amazing celebration. I cried at Maddie's dad's speech. It was such a sweet moment between the two of them. I thankfully didn't cry at Kevin's speech. I thought I would but I didn't. When Ivan and Maddie danced...you couldn't help but see two people absolutely perfect for each other. He loves her so much and you can see it every time he looks at her. She looks at him the same way. It's magic to see two people like that.
*I've always been considered a dude to those two boys (now men) up there. It felt good to know that after everything and how long we have all been apart...that it will ALWAYS feel the same. We were able to pick right back up from the last time we were all together and have a great time. Being called a dude was an ultimate compliment for me. I like not being fully a chick.
*I am glad I didn't go to my high schoool reunion. All the people I wanted to see were in Chicago and we partied it up. I'm glad I used the hundred bucks it was supposed to cost me to go to a reunion here...I used it there...and then some. It was awesome and wouldn't have changed it for the world.
*I learned that no matter how much Alex bitches he will ultimately have a good time and understand why I make him do the things that I make him do. I like putting a bit of a travel bug in my husband.
* I learned what truly cold was like. I mean. It was truly cold. I came back here and the new phrase is "It's cold...but it's not Chicago cold."
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
You can drive on the other side but you can't zip a zipper up on the other side?
My husband is super English. I mean...super English. He does not...by any means want to do anything that is "American". I started to notice this when I would go to give a high five. He always left me hanging.
One of the first times I cooked for him....garlic was something unheard of. I mean...I know he liked garlic sausage pizzas at home but when I was cooking he looked at me and went...."you're going to put that much garlic in?" I PUT GARLIC IN EVERY THING. He of course ate it....and loved it. They definitely have garlic all over the world but none of his dinners ever included it. He would eat meat and veg and potatoes every night covered in gravy. When Farmey is used to something...he's used to it. He now eats garlic mashed potatoes and other things filled with garlic.
Cheesecake. You are on acid if you don't like cheesecake right? He refused to eat cheesecake. He wouldn't even try it! He is not a huge fan of the cheese. In his mind...he would rather have ANY thing besides a cake made of cheese. He will eat cheese on a burger...cheese on a pizza....but that's pretty much where he draws the line. Well, one night we are at our Chinese food place and they didn't have Thai Tea. The server felt bad so she decided to bring us a free dessert. There was a chocolate cheesecake square and a plain cheesecake square. Alex is allergic to chocolate so I scored the chocolate one. Alex picks up the plain one and pops it in his mouth. I didn't tell him it was a cheesecake square until he said mmmmm. I wasn't going to warn him. It was the perfect opportunity to get him to try it.
Gym shorts. For the longest time I could not buy him any new pairs of shorts. The reason....ALL THE SHORTS HAD POCKETS. The gym shorts he had from England didn't have pockets and that's what he wanted...shorts exactly like the ones he bought in England. For most people, like me, this would be a bonus. Who doesn't love pockets? He refused and refused and refused. I told him...they are all going to have effing pockets. Finally...one day....he caved. He bought the shorts with pockets and now he loves having pockets to stash all his shit. I love that he has pockets too. That means I'm not carrying around his inhaler any more.
Zippers....this is the new quirk I found out. Apparently the zippers in England are different for womens and mens. I guess all the zippers here are on the girls side instead of the boys side and Al doesn't like that. He will see hoodie (or a jumper if your English and reading this) and thinks he likes it...until he tries it on....until he goes to zip it up...then he hangs the thing back up. This has been the case on more than a few instances. The last instance was in Old Navy. I can't wrap my head around it. He tells me it would REALLY bother him to zip it up on that side. I can't see the difference in just zipping from the other side AT ALL. He tells me, "Well if you've grown up with something your whole life..." I proceeded to tell him that he drives on the other side of the road here...why can't he zip up a zipper on the other side? He dropped every thing he knew to be with me and to move here...how is that little bitty zipper on the wrong side a problem?
It's things like this that make him Alex. I love every inch of him....even when I think his cheese has completely slid off his cracker.
One of the first times I cooked for him....garlic was something unheard of. I mean...I know he liked garlic sausage pizzas at home but when I was cooking he looked at me and went...."you're going to put that much garlic in?" I PUT GARLIC IN EVERY THING. He of course ate it....and loved it. They definitely have garlic all over the world but none of his dinners ever included it. He would eat meat and veg and potatoes every night covered in gravy. When Farmey is used to something...he's used to it. He now eats garlic mashed potatoes and other things filled with garlic.
Cheesecake. You are on acid if you don't like cheesecake right? He refused to eat cheesecake. He wouldn't even try it! He is not a huge fan of the cheese. In his mind...he would rather have ANY thing besides a cake made of cheese. He will eat cheese on a burger...cheese on a pizza....but that's pretty much where he draws the line. Well, one night we are at our Chinese food place and they didn't have Thai Tea. The server felt bad so she decided to bring us a free dessert. There was a chocolate cheesecake square and a plain cheesecake square. Alex is allergic to chocolate so I scored the chocolate one. Alex picks up the plain one and pops it in his mouth. I didn't tell him it was a cheesecake square until he said mmmmm. I wasn't going to warn him. It was the perfect opportunity to get him to try it.
Gym shorts. For the longest time I could not buy him any new pairs of shorts. The reason....ALL THE SHORTS HAD POCKETS. The gym shorts he had from England didn't have pockets and that's what he wanted...shorts exactly like the ones he bought in England. For most people, like me, this would be a bonus. Who doesn't love pockets? He refused and refused and refused. I told him...they are all going to have effing pockets. Finally...one day....he caved. He bought the shorts with pockets and now he loves having pockets to stash all his shit. I love that he has pockets too. That means I'm not carrying around his inhaler any more.
Zippers....this is the new quirk I found out. Apparently the zippers in England are different for womens and mens. I guess all the zippers here are on the girls side instead of the boys side and Al doesn't like that. He will see hoodie (or a jumper if your English and reading this) and thinks he likes it...until he tries it on....until he goes to zip it up...then he hangs the thing back up. This has been the case on more than a few instances. The last instance was in Old Navy. I can't wrap my head around it. He tells me it would REALLY bother him to zip it up on that side. I can't see the difference in just zipping from the other side AT ALL. He tells me, "Well if you've grown up with something your whole life..." I proceeded to tell him that he drives on the other side of the road here...why can't he zip up a zipper on the other side? He dropped every thing he knew to be with me and to move here...how is that little bitty zipper on the wrong side a problem?
It's things like this that make him Alex. I love every inch of him....even when I think his cheese has completely slid off his cracker.
Monday, January 2, 2012
Happy New Year! It's gonna be a big one!
Ok...let's talk about reasons why 2012 is BIG.
*A reunion of epic proportions is about to happen. Once upon a time I was in high school and I had my two bestest boys anybody could ever ask for. Well...its time to go watch one of them get hitched in Chicago. I am invited to the Bachelor Party. First and probably last one I will ever attend. When asked why I was coming...Ivan simply said...why is she NOT coming? She could drink us all under the table. Yes...I have a bit of dude in me and I'm entirely sure they had a big hand in me being not completely a girly girl and in my ability to drink them "under the table". It's in 10 days and I CAN'T WAIT!
*I am 8 months away from moving to England. I have never been away from my house for more than 3 weeks in 26 years. If you don't think this is a BIG change for me...well...you would be on acid. ;o) I am getting more anxious about it every day. This blog will be full of things that I get anxious, excited, nervous about...so stay tuned!
*I am 10 months and 25 days away from 30. I'm so close to being 3 decades old that I can taste it. My birthday also happens to fall on a Saturday. If you don't think I'm going all out and getting sloshed in a pub in England...well....you are sorely mistaken! ;o)
That's three pretty big things...I'm sure I have surprises in store as well...with every new year...I've learned that every year is full of surprises. Just like Forrest Gump says....its a box of chocolates. And you know how I love chocolates.
On to the resolutions:
*I am going to take better care of myself. I imagine that in about a year and a half or so I will be trying to get pregnant. So...I need to make a baby making vessel. :o)
*I am going to own Star West. And by own I mean make it my bitch. Last year I believe I had major resentment for Star West. A.) Because it stressed the shit out of me. B.) Been here way too long for something that was supposed to just be college job. But now with the end in sight...I want nothing more than to show it who's the boss...and to end on a very good note. (Even though I think I will always have a hand in Star West even after I have gone.)
*Save boat loads of money. I mean...truck loads.
*I need to not feel anxious about the move. Every now and then I scream inside and say NOOOOO! I can't leave. I feel sometimes like I can't breathe. Like I'm not going to accomplish everything I need to in order to move. Sometimes I wonder if I think I have this thing on lock and something will happen and the plans will be foiled again. I'm gonna miss my bed...and my puppy...and my family...and my friends. This is never going to help me move thinking like that and I need to focus on the good things that are going to come out of this move. A happier husband. A happier me. A baby. A house. A dog of my own. A new bed. My own couch that I get to pick out myself. A kitchen that is ALL mine with nobody else to mess it up but me. New friends. Spending time with my nieces and my sister and my brothers and my pops and my mama. New job. A different job. A job that challenges me to do something different. The years have flown by because I've been in a groove. I want to be thrown out of my comfort level. I want to stand up next to my husband on our own two feet and take the world head on. Living like I have been living isn't going to cut it anymore. Its comfortable and cushy and safe...I need this to not be the case.
*To blog...consistently. The reason why its important this year is because over the break from work...I read my moms journal from when she was young. She was so good about keeping it going. I want to have something where I can vent...or just blab about what's going on...I also want to keep a record of the stuff I did to move to England. I also want to keep my feelings some place where my kids could look back and check it out. This is going to be an interesting year...I can't wait to blog about it. ALL OF IT!
*A reunion of epic proportions is about to happen. Once upon a time I was in high school and I had my two bestest boys anybody could ever ask for. Well...its time to go watch one of them get hitched in Chicago. I am invited to the Bachelor Party. First and probably last one I will ever attend. When asked why I was coming...Ivan simply said...why is she NOT coming? She could drink us all under the table. Yes...I have a bit of dude in me and I'm entirely sure they had a big hand in me being not completely a girly girl and in my ability to drink them "under the table". It's in 10 days and I CAN'T WAIT!
*I am 8 months away from moving to England. I have never been away from my house for more than 3 weeks in 26 years. If you don't think this is a BIG change for me...well...you would be on acid. ;o) I am getting more anxious about it every day. This blog will be full of things that I get anxious, excited, nervous about...so stay tuned!
*I am 10 months and 25 days away from 30. I'm so close to being 3 decades old that I can taste it. My birthday also happens to fall on a Saturday. If you don't think I'm going all out and getting sloshed in a pub in England...well....you are sorely mistaken! ;o)
That's three pretty big things...I'm sure I have surprises in store as well...with every new year...I've learned that every year is full of surprises. Just like Forrest Gump says....its a box of chocolates. And you know how I love chocolates.
On to the resolutions:
*I am going to take better care of myself. I imagine that in about a year and a half or so I will be trying to get pregnant. So...I need to make a baby making vessel. :o)
*I am going to own Star West. And by own I mean make it my bitch. Last year I believe I had major resentment for Star West. A.) Because it stressed the shit out of me. B.) Been here way too long for something that was supposed to just be college job. But now with the end in sight...I want nothing more than to show it who's the boss...and to end on a very good note. (Even though I think I will always have a hand in Star West even after I have gone.)
*Save boat loads of money. I mean...truck loads.
*I need to not feel anxious about the move. Every now and then I scream inside and say NOOOOO! I can't leave. I feel sometimes like I can't breathe. Like I'm not going to accomplish everything I need to in order to move. Sometimes I wonder if I think I have this thing on lock and something will happen and the plans will be foiled again. I'm gonna miss my bed...and my puppy...and my family...and my friends. This is never going to help me move thinking like that and I need to focus on the good things that are going to come out of this move. A happier husband. A happier me. A baby. A house. A dog of my own. A new bed. My own couch that I get to pick out myself. A kitchen that is ALL mine with nobody else to mess it up but me. New friends. Spending time with my nieces and my sister and my brothers and my pops and my mama. New job. A different job. A job that challenges me to do something different. The years have flown by because I've been in a groove. I want to be thrown out of my comfort level. I want to stand up next to my husband on our own two feet and take the world head on. Living like I have been living isn't going to cut it anymore. Its comfortable and cushy and safe...I need this to not be the case.
*To blog...consistently. The reason why its important this year is because over the break from work...I read my moms journal from when she was young. She was so good about keeping it going. I want to have something where I can vent...or just blab about what's going on...I also want to keep a record of the stuff I did to move to England. I also want to keep my feelings some place where my kids could look back and check it out. This is going to be an interesting year...I can't wait to blog about it. ALL OF IT!
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